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Old 08-12-2012, 05:25 PM
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Thanks for coming back and giving an update!

Believe me, I know how hard it is to be patient when there is something like this going on - been there, bought the t-shirt. But the adage of going at the speed at which everyone is comfortable is really, really important if you are going to try to get through this with trust intact. Anything you do to push too hard is a withdrawal from the Emotional Bank Account that you have with your husband.

So it's a fine line between making sure that things progress and not allowing him to slow things down to the point where nothing advances, and pushing too hard. It takes a delicate touch.
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