Originally Posted by dingedheart
Getting him excited about marrying you while he's in nre with her seems like a tall order. You might have to just mourn that loss.
I like this advice.
It sounds to me like you are in a constant state of reaction to everything that's happening. You also have some push pull going on. I would suggest you back away from it all long enough to check in with yourself to see if you still want any of this.