Hello Once Upon,
Welcome to our forum.
It's sad to hear of how backward/ignorant people can be, but not surprising. We live far from the enlightened society I hope will someday be in the future.
As for who you "love more," that's like asking which of your kids you love the most. It's an irrational question, and just shows how far people have to go.
Anyway, I'm glad you could join us on our site.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"