Yes, I agree with you... I need to take control of the contact, at least for now.
I am also wondering: I can ask J to not text or call her when we are together for the next two weeks, but what about the two of them getting together in the next two weeks? That floods me completely. It doesn't seem fair to him to ask him to not see her for the next two weeks, but I also feel that it would be unfair to me since I am the one that needs to heal and repair from the break up.