Originally Posted by katja24
I think that is great advice if I wanted to continue seeing her. But I broke up with her almost a month ago. I want to heal and move on. I am not interested in seeing her or having a relationship with her. And hearing from her randomly means that whatever pieces I have picked up get thrown back on the floor. Maybe I just answered my own question...
My mistake, but it does sound like your husband is still in contact with her and therefore at some point you might have to deal with her as your metamour. The time limits might have to be different, but knowing when the contact will happen will allow you to prepare yourself and not allow all the pieces to fall to the floor. Do not allow the contact to be random. If you send out the first contact, it will be on your terms, your topic, not hers you have control. No sitting waiting in fear of random messages.