This has been very useful, thank you. Read it all, but still had a question. Forgive me if folks feel this has been previously entertained/dealt with in a satisfactory manner.
I notice that the language/implication around secondaries is tricky. Folks who have recently entered our lives have expressed concern/fear over the apparent hierarchy of our relationships. Not based on receiving any less love/affection/time but simply because my partner and I live together.
While I understand it may be difficult for people entering into a relationship with somebody in a domestic partnership to feel anything other than secondary, I was hoping there may be some alternative non-hierarchical language available that would be potentially less alienating to those unaccustomed to poly. Semantics, sure, but I think it could help our situations.