Originally Posted by mimi1002
I see what you are saying. I guess I just want everyone to be happy. I want her to lighten up a bit so that every interaction isn't a huge therapy session. Life doesn't have to be so deep all the time. It definitely would make me want to be around her more which would make SO happy.
The best way to help someone lighten up is to lighten up yourself. The only way to truly lead is by example. Life for you does not have to be a constant therapy session. Maybe it has to be for her right now. I edited my original reply a bit to include the fact that moving in together is a huge step. Its the olympics of relationships - even more so for those with multiple partners. Maybe she needs a lot of what you call therapy right now. Tell him to help her adjust. If watching it bothers you, walk away and do something else for a while. This is a huge adjustment. Putting more energy into respecting her will lighten things up more than putting energy into judging her.