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Old 08-08-2012, 05:45 PM
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Originally Posted by newtoday View Post
it gets old hearing some poly folk provide an easy solution to the mono folk of "just find another one to supplement."
A fantastic example of how our different mindsets come up with logical solutions that just don't work for those of the other mindset.

This comes up most often when a mono person is trying to come to terms with the things that a poly person wants, but, as you so wonderfully showed, it most definitely can go both ways.

If you are in a mono/poly relationship, BOTH sides need to take the time to understand the mindset of the other and adapt their language to make for an efficient communication dynamic. So often the poly person complains of "why don't they understand me"... it goes both ways.
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