I am so happy to read that you stated your concerns so honestly, directly, and emphatically. Because you focused on communicating your needs and concerns without letting your anger or frustration take over, you were able to express that anger and frustration without it getting in the way, and it seems that your intention to reunite and reconnect with your wife came through loud and clear for her to "get it."
It also seems that you have a good plan of action. I wish you all the best as you move forward, and I hope we get updates from you.
The world opens up... when you do.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein