What of your needs and your children's needs are getting met by your wife/their mother?? I don't care WHY she may or may not be doing what she's doing......the fact is she's living a very selfish life that seems to only take her wants/needs into consideration. For me, this isn't what being a wife and a mother is about. That doesn't mean that one's wants/needs as an individual aren't important, too, but your wife has also made commitments of "wife" and "mother" and I'm not seeing where those roles are being honored. I'm sickened by reading about the degree of her selfishness.....especially when it comes to innocent children who had no say about being a part of this family/relationship!