Originally Posted by AutumnalTone
I don't think it matters how common it is or isn't. The real question is whether or not it works for those involved.
I think this is the crux of it. What works for the people experiencing the dynamic? Doesn't matter if you are the only folks on the planet doing it that way (which you are NOT!) - if it works for you then ... GREAT!
Dude and I have sex way more often than MrS and I do. MrS and I practically live inside each others minds. So, yes, Dude is my primary sexual partner and MrS is my primary emotional partner. But there are so many more parameters than that. MrS and I have a 20 year history of experience together. Dude and I enjoy thrashing out intellectual shit that MrS and I already agree on. etc. etc. etc.
Letting each relationship be what it is and not trying to force some artificial "equality" into the equation is a key component to our happiness (and my sanity!
Live. Love. Enjoy!