My old rule?
I don't get excited unless there something to be excited about. Ex:
- You are dating someone more seriously. This could affect my calendar.
- You are going loverly and it could affect my health.
So I'd ask your fiancee what her idea of a date number is. Aks your 3 date person -- what her date number is. And see if they want you to be organizing a simple coffee date to exchange particulars. *shrug*
Do it how YOU want to do it with you poly peeps. THEY are the ones you need to be asking for wants, needs, and limits.