Originally Posted by nightrush
Parter B has made it very clear to both of us, he NEEDS both of us to be happy. Partner A has taken off our ring already, has gotten quiet towards me and is feeling insecure... like i am replacing him... even after multiple times telling him i could never replace him.
I guess I, too, am a little confused. You're saying what you want, what A wants, what B wants, and it sounds like they simply aren't compatible, and in cases, mutually exclusive.
I suppose I'm a stickler for accuracy, but B does not 'need' you both to be happy, he won't die if you're not both happy. He very much wants it, but emphatically saying he 'needs' it is useless if what you and A want is mutually exclusive. Is he trying to say you and A must sort out your differences to B's satisfaction? Or simply that you must each decide what you want for happiness and not put him in the middle? Again, it sounds like you and A want two opposite things.