I'm much like you in this way LR. I decided to practice letting it go and seeing what happens. Its actually been an interesting lesson in letting go of control. Who knew?!
turns out people resolve stuff without me being involved. I just have to trust that they have my best interest at heart and are doing it there way. I can't say I will always stand back and just let it be, but its proved useful in ways I didn't expect. Just a thought.