I have no advice unfortunately. It seems that women tend to react in astonishment that I am OK with sharing my husband with another woman, and he in sharing me. I get a lot of "I could NEVER do that"... and my reply is "OK"... with men I typically get the pervert stare, and wanting to discuss my sex life. I guess, I have boundary issues myself, but this seems to cross a line for me.
Happily married to TT since February 1993.
Happily dating DB since March 2010.