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Old 08-05-2012, 12:20 AM
Josie Josie is offline
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 71
Default Because you're poly

I guess this is more of an angsty/disgusted announcement than anything else really:

I was on a night out tonight and was explaining my relationship and what it entailed to friend at the pub. One of our friends next to us overheard and was very impressed by the idea of a woman who was okay with their boyfriend having sex/relationships with others. He was a little over the top about it but I didn't really mind.
Cut to the end of the night.
I go to hug him - he's moving away tomorrow, so I made sure to give him a hug and wish him a good journey. During the hug he declares that I have to kiss him goodbye. I good-naturedly try to turn his head to give him a peck on the cheek. This is when it gets awkward. I was grabbed in death-grip type hold and informed that I'm:
'In a poly relationship and so you HAVE to kiss me'.

I had to spend a good time wrestling away.
Now I'm used to people being a bit handsy and not taking no for an answer but I thought this was just plain rude and incredibly presumptous.

Does this happen a lot if you're in a poly relationship and open about it? Are there good ways to broach the subject with people that will hopefully prevent this kind of reaction? I don't want people to think that they can force me into something because I'm poly and therefore *must* want it.

PS - sorry if this isn't in the right section, I didn't know where to put it.
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