Ok, I'm sorry, but you get a ton of thoughtful, thorough advice that you yourself say has been very helpful, then one person makes a comment that makes you feel judged, then thinks better of it and deletes it, and you're gone forever because of it?
I don't mean this to sound hurtful, I swear I don't. But I strongly suggest that you work to develop a thicker skin before opening up your marriage if your response to something unpleasant amidst a sea of good things is to run away.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.