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Old 07-31-2012, 03:44 PM
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My husband and I have been married for almost 11 years. We have an 8 year old daughter. We've been theoretically open for about 4 or 5 years, what I like to call arm-chair-poly. My husband has been in a long distance emotionally intimate relationship for about 4 with the knowledge that when we got back to the States (we lived overseas for those years) their relationship would become a physically sexual relationship. So upon our arrival back in the States, she offically became our first "other." We are a V with my husband in the middle. She is wonderful and I love her but am not sexually attracted to her.

I honestly don't know how to define my sexuality. I am primarily hetero but I think that the female body is beautiful and desire worthy. I love boobs and I think kissing a woman's face (no stubble) would be amazing. However, if it goes any farther than that, I loose interest pretty quickly. A friend said I was a "boobisexual." That's probably as good a description as any.

I think bi-curious would be the best way to describe my husband. Or he'd be bi for the right guy, might be a better way of putting it. Since I am currently fascinated with the idea of US having a boyfriend, that works for me. Right now, in the midst of NRE (my diagnosis, not his), he feels like serious relationships with two women is enough for him. He's not opposed to more casual encounters but he's not looking either.

His girlfriend is bi-sexual and has expressed intrest in me but is not pushy about it. She's not sure if she's poly or not.

We are out to my sister and some friends who are long distance. Some family suspects but are too repressed to ask actual questions. His gf lives in a small town where there could be very real consequences to coming out (though ironically, she just has one boyfriend so what the hell's the problem?). My husband and I are more willing to be out here in our larger city but it will cause issues with my parents and extended family. Not sure yet how much backlash I'm willing to deal with. But I'm also shit at keeping secrets so I'm working on being ready for maximum shit storm.
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