If you're going to be in that new room, I suggest putting a lock on the door and keeping it locked whenever you are not there. tell Piper and Colada to ask permission to enter your room. What good is a sanctuary if people can just come and go whenever they feel like it?
I am sorry that you are so sad. I went through that when my marriage ended andthought I would never crack a smile again. More talking, more reinforcing of boundaries, and figuring out what you need and want to be happy is in order. Piper seems oblivious and unable to read you. Did he ever understand you?
Perhaps you might even consider moving into your own apartment.
Last edited by nycindie; 07-31-2012 at 12:28 AM.