I think I'm into the poly lifestyle for mostly
nonsexual reasons. I love my partner, I've been with him for 5 years, but he's not really a talker and on a lot of levels we are polar opposites.
It's really hard to explain for me. He's a great provider for the family, he loves spending time with us, he's a very fun person to go out with and be social, and I truly do love him. But I'm more into a "natural" lifestyle and embrace the ideas of peace, equality, etc. Not that he doesn't but just that he doesn't as much as me. He's not a big spending time in nature person. He doesn't always want to sit up all night talking (unless he's smoked, then he won't be quiet
) I need someone to be there for THOSE parts of my life as well. That's why I think poly works. No ONE person can "match" every part of your personality.
Now, with all that being said, am I avoiding a sexual relationship if we have another partner? No, but that is not why I'm seeking one out.