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Old 07-28-2012, 07:00 PM
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I want a poly life. It won't be with him unless he leaves his wife or is totally up front with her. I won't ever ask him to do that, tho.

And this begs the question - why the hell not? As long as you condone his lying and cheating, you are as guilty of participating in his wife's betrayal as he is. How can you so easily disregard the pain and deception you are causing her? Is your sex life and getting your jollies really more important to you than treating another human being with decency and respect? Guaranteed, this will come back to bite you in the ass.

Lying and cheating is not polyamory. It is not ethical non-monogamy. What it is, is purely selfish.
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