I'm sure CDM has been quivering in his boots for the last two weeks in fear of your disrespect and/or disapprobation.
If you were to post here asking for home decorating advice, I would suggest you try a home decorating forum because you'd be more likely to find people with answers for you there than on a board about polyamoury. If you post here looking for a date, I would suggest you try the subforum specifically set up for those who come here looking for dates rather than the one for new people to introduce themselves. Can you guess why?
If you were then to get all bent out of shape about it I... well... really I couldn't are less, but I might be inclined to believe you're not worth helping.