I agree with CielDuMatin. I'll just add one thing. J seems like a very unstable person. It seems to me he will add instability to your life. Do you want that?
Romantic attraction can have a powerful pull on some people. You know what its like to be with someone for decades. You know the intense romantic feelings diminish over time. The unstable behavior J will bring into your life will be in your life to stay as long as he does.
Do you really want that?
Last edited by snowmelt; 07-26-2012 at 12:54 AM.