Ahh, I see! That is very different then. May I ask if you guys take on specific roles in your BDSM context (like, is one of you submissive and the other dominant, or do you go back and forth within those roles, or eschew them entirely and just play with sensation)?
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.