Originally Posted by monogamishSF
Even though I know it's not about me, rationally, it ate away at me anyway, you know?
YES. Yes, I know. Furthermore, I know that my husband has also experienced this as has my boyfriend.
You aren't alone in that feeling.
I'm not sure what all has been said-and I don't have time to catch up at the moment. But, I can tell you, you aren't alone in these struggles.
You might read through some of my blogposts. I've been writing in it off and on throughout our whole 3 year experience. There's tags for topics too (link in my signature). You might find a few helpful ideas in there.