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Old 07-25-2012, 01:51 AM
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Originally Posted by monogamishSF View Post
I meant "this sort of thing" to mean prospective secondaries, not me freaking out all over the place.
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Originally Posted by monogamishSF View Post
When do they become background noise and what do you do in the meantime?
I guess this is what Tristan Taormino meant by just telling that voice to "buzz off." You (and I mean the collective "you," which includes me as well in this and my previous post) just have to push it back into the background and occupy yourself with other things. It isn't easy at first, but can be done. I admit, the answer is simple but not easily mastered without practice. Many times I have wished for a magic wand, but there isn't any, unfortunately.
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