It's not a problem for us. My bf Nathan is a very affectionate person, we are always holding hands and hugging or kissing, we do not change the way we are together when we meet up with my lover and his wife. Scott does not mind at all, and his wife thinks it is sweet. Scott is not very affectionate towards me, or his wife, and according to her, he never was. It's a shame because I do think I need non-sexual affection. I guess I'm lucky that Nathan makes up for it.