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Old 07-24-2012, 08:10 PM
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Originally Posted by monogamishSF View Post
Our therapist says what we need to do next is rebuild trust.
Ugh, I wonder why rebuilding trust in order to preserve this relationship, which is so full of deception and disrespect, is more important than anything else. I would've recommended walking away.

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Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
Why are you still together? Srsly. It sounds to me like neither one of you are ready for a serious relationship, either mono or poly.

It may work best for you if you split and each attend to your own issues. Once you've got a handle on those, then you'll have a chance of working out your joint issues.
I totally agree.
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