Welcome to the forum from a fellow upstater.
I ask this question of everyone who says they're from "upstate New York" - where do you consider "upstate" - for some it's Rochester, Watertown or Syracuse, to others, it's anything north of Westchester County :-)
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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