Honestly, just hearing someone say that to me would leave me flaccid. You have to check with your wife/lover/mom/whoever to make sure that you can make a date with me? That would be a huge red flag for me.
1. Set up Google calendar with wife/family
2. Put important scheduling info on there as it comes up
3. Check calendar for open slots for a date, enter date so it doesn't get scheduled over
This way when I'm trying to make plans I don't have to call in to headquarters to check and see if I am allowed