Just a minor clarification - I didn't intend my idea of "normal" to cover everyone's circumstances. Just what's normal around OUR house.
And I wouldn't expect anyone to hang around waiting on my plans or decisions either - I think if you snooze, you lose. Although I do ask husband (man, i gotta think of a pen name) to let me know his schedule, I don't ask him to change plans without a damn good reason.
Sparklepop, I always enjoy what you have to say. It makes sense to me a lot of the time. Thanks for that!