A family/household is like a team in sports.
It's one thing if you want to just throw a ball around at the playground with one of the members. But, if you want to be part of the team, you gotta know all the players well enough to work together with each of them, for the benefit of the team.
SOMETIMES that means NOT socializing with someone who chooses a lifestyle or promotes behaviors in you, that go against the best interests of the team.
"Love As Thou Wilt"