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Old 07-19-2012, 11:36 PM
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Originally Posted by CielDuMatin View Post
I am going to be brief and rather blunt, since I have answered some of your other questions on other threads.

You and he made marriage vows to be monogamous with each other (either explicitly or implicitly). Him not wanting to share you (i.e. keep to the agreement that you made) is not really a "concern", unless it's something that you are worried about.

You want to change the status quo - he may be ok with that, in which case you can start down the road of polydom, or he may not be, in which case you have a choice to either not act on your desires, to lie, cheat and betray your marriage, or to end the marriage.

As you have said in your other threads - your only real way forward that is at all ethical is to talk with him.

Good luck, and welcome!
I should say ~ we talked about it once, a couple of years ago, and his words were that we'd have to have a lot of trust and history built up, which I feel we do in some ways. In other ways, we've been through a lot of bad experiences in the past couple of years, but we're closer for it, so that's good. So I don't think it's out of the question, I'm just nervous about talking to him, for obvious reasons being it could change our whole lives, for good or bad and that's intimidating.
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