Welcome to our forum.
Sounds like you are getting things figured out with your husband. I'm sure things will be okay. I don't know if I'm prying, but can I ask, does being a lesbian affect your relationship with your husband? I mean, are you comfortable with things in the sexual area, or have you and your husband kind of become platonic?
I'm glad you could join us, in any case.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"