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I'm new here *waves*

I'm totally new to poly as well and I'm wondering how does one go about become a secondary partner? Is it a topic you bring up with the person your dating or do you wait for them to bring it up? I’m totally confused. I feel like I’m at the mercy of the guy I’m dating and his primary a bit but is that the way things are meant to feel? I’m wondering if I’m just a fling to him while I on the other hand have developed deeper feelings. He lives across the country and recently told me he can come to see me because he has to spend time with his primary. They live together!
So confused….