Originally Posted by Daffodil
I know that is selfish and immature. But he was mine to start, he should be mine to keep.
Last I checked slavery is still illegal, so no - he's not yours, he's never been yours, and he'll never be yours. He may be your husband or your lover or whatever, but he as a person is not YOURS. It is his choice to remain with you. Be thankful for that. Not many men would deal with the crap you've apparently been putting him through, especially when they don't subscribe to the "the one" paradigm.
If you know it's selfish and immature, why don't you work on growing? Become the woman of his dreams if that's what you wish you were. Or do you enjoy being like this? I mean, if you do, go for it, I guess, but you're always going to struggle with relationships with other people if you keep the "it's all about me and what I want and what makes me feel okay" attitude.
Good luck to you.