Welcome to our forum.
It sounds like you're still kind of recovering from your first not-so-good experience with poly. Don't rush yourselves ... Give time for things to develop naturally ... Don't be afraid to have a look at the rules from time to time; you may find that some of them can be loosened.
It's good to have you with us; I hope you will enjoy your stay here.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"