Once again... either a misunderstanding or not reading what I wrote. But she will not "cause problems in the primary relationship" which I translate to mean that she will not try to seperate the primary partners or turn them against one another.
You know what, I think I have a solution to my problem. Rather then having to defend myself against people within my community, like I have to defend myself to poeple outside the communtiy, I will just do the intelligent thing and leave.
Thank you to those people who have helped me to decide to cancel my membership.
"I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night...."