Originally Posted by SNeacail
Of course you didn't mean to betray her, but that's likely how she is viewing the situation.
I don't see why the EX needs to be in on a conversation that is really about the relationship and boundaries of the 3 of you. Get the issues between the 3 of you worked out, then bring in the EX if there is going to be ongoing relationship with her also. The issue is about the communication and expectations the 3 of you and that all of you have been assuming and NOT communicating.
I agree. The EX does not need to be part of this conversation. Leave that for another place another time.