"Specialness" in poly relationships?
I am dealing with an emotion that I can't put a finger on. I'm in a FMF Vee. My SO's GF would like it to be a triad but I am not there yet. I don't know if I will be there. We have talked a lot about this and are working on having a more integrated life. Here is my issue. A lot of the time when I talk about something that SO has done for me or to me, his GF points out to me that "yeah, he did that for or to me, years ago". For some reason this is rubbing me the wrong way. I don't care that they did this or that but I really don't want it pointed out all the time. I don't know if this is jealousy or what. It just feels like nothing in our relationship is novel or "just ours". Like there is no "specialness" to our relationship. I'm not sure if this is my issue or her's. I mean, perhaps she feels the same way. That the "specialness" of their relationship is gone because he is now doing all these things with me. I would like to talk to her about it but any input would be appreciated.