I was drawn to your post because I am a thrift store junkie as well. Pyrex is my main obsession-- the colors and designs are so pretty and combinations are almost infinite! I love the thrill of the hunt.
Anyway, you say you're looking for a unicorn, so you know their rarity. Would you be open to a person who was more into your wife emotionally and sexually, and just liked you as a friend, or vice versa? This is what usually happens, at least 90% of the time. If a woman started out into both of you, but became closer with one of you after hot sex NRE slowed down, would you veto her?
Is this your first foray into poly dating, or have you 2 had separate lovers in the past?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37