Analogy for troubled relationships
If the motor in your car has a rod knocking are you going to load it up with people and take off on a 500 mile road trip? A responsible, intelligent person is going to fix their car first so that everyone is not sitting stranded on the side of a highway in the middle of nowhere.
How many people do you think would climb into that car knowing the motor is getting ready to blow?
Point: Fix your car then people with be more than happy to ride along with you!