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Old 07-15-2012, 01:47 PM
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Some might say it is inevitable. It seems that most triads turn into vees. Maintaining a triad isn't easy and it's more common than not for things to ebb and flow much differently for each pairing. I think it is probably best, and would benefit everyone most, to focus on making each pair work as well as possible, rather than trying to hold the triad together as a whole at the expense of one of the dyads, if you know what I mean.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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