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Old 07-15-2012, 01:04 AM
miossotty miossotty is offline
Join Date: Jul 2012
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Default I've never done this before

Hi all. I'm sure there is another thread like mine somewhere in here but I'd rather not go through 1000 pages to find it.

I've always thought of myself as a monogamist incapable of compromise until I fell in love with someone who eventually confessed that he was polyamorous (I'll refer to him as K.). He's new to the lifestyle after years of monogamous relationships so I can understand his trepidation in "coming out". I'm not sure he even really knew for awhile how to define what he was feeling. I fell in love with him anyway and I like to think of myself as open-minded which is why I'm here. It's kind of hard to deal with at times since I've never had anything like this before, but if I'm going to love him, I have to love him for everything he is. I'm not the type of person who can love only bits and pieces of someone and discard what I don't like. I can't see love working that way and especially with him because he is such an amazing individual.

I have bookmarked and I've read through it but it would be nice to have people to talk to about it other than K. K and I have a refreshingly honest relationship but I don't have any friends or relatives who would understand his lifestyle or my decision to stay with him. I think third party perspective can be valuable because there might be someone out there who understands a situation in a way that I don't.

If there is anyone on here who was once like me and would like to share how they got over their feelings of jealousy or inadequacy, it would be very much appreciated. I'm also open to hearing from people who have been polyamorous for years and would like to offer any insight or support. Basically anyone who feels like they can help me understand this better is welcome to respond.

Thank you!
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