Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
I am someone who is involved in a mono/poly relationship and am in another poly/poly relationship (so yes, I'm the poly person!
I think too often we fall into the trap of wanting our partner to want the same things we do - whether that's to make us feel better about the things we want, or just wanting to share the happiness - either way, it causes pressure.
I believe that part of a good relationship is accepting the other for who they are, while being there for them if and when they decide to grow or change some aspect of their lives. It's not our job to push, though, it has to come from them.
This can be especially hard with a mono/poly setup, because the driving factors for each can be very, very different.
Welcome to the forum!
Yes, I have been doing alot of soul searching over those issues, I am just giving him time to process and answering any questions he might have.