Ohmygosh, thank you for hearing what we were saying with an open mind!! You don't know how many people have come here with this same scenario, have been given the same advice, and have just not wanted to hear it. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know for myself that the reason I keep posting these sorts of responses is in the hopes that at least occasionally someone will have the reaction you had. So, just, thank you, seeing that made my night.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.