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Old 07-12-2012, 05:08 AM
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There have been lots of threads on this question before, and it usually seems to be that the married folk talk about being poly upfront before a date happens, and the not so tightly partnered people might take their time with it. Like, a few dates. Myself, I would definitely talk about it by the third date. I may or may not talk about it before that, depending on the person and the conversation. I feel like saying it too early is presumptuous, as if one is assuming that the other person wants them. I basically start off trying not to assume anything, so if the fact is appropriate to the convo, it gets said. I am sure you will find a variety of interesting answers here and in the other threads, if you do a search.
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