Just came back to the board from a bit of a (self-imposed) hiatus and saw your post. Yes, we are here, really! As pilot414 mentioned earlier, there's a Yahoo! group that has a little bit of activity; not sure about the Fetlife group since I'm not on that board. We try to get together every month or so for a discussion group (usually on the 4th Wednesday of the month).
Hopefully we'll see you around! Later!
Freedom begins when you tell Mrs. Grundy to go fly a kite.
-- from The Notebooks of Lazarus Long