Originally Posted by AnotherConfused
C He really craves a chance at a long lasting partnership or marriage. I don't want to deny him that, but I just can't imagine how he could ever handle it without drastically changing the way he lives his life -and how sad it would be, if he ended up staying home to be with a partner who wasn't interested in all the excursions he likes to take.
I don't get the sense that he is resisting being "tied down" to a relationship with me at all. He is resisting giving up his dream of a full time partner.
It sounds a little like you are focusing on every reason for C NOT
to have the long lasting partnership that he craves.
Fact is, if he wants it bad enough, the other stuff won't matter. He will find a way to make it all work.
I understand that you love him and want him to build something long term with you, but denying him what he really craves isn't fair to him. Or maybe you're just rationalizing it to yourself to ease your own fears of him leaving?