If love required the insanity of butterflies, I never would have married my beloved husband of 21 years. There may be one destination, but I think there are many paths, and the kind of love that conquers all... well that takes time.
NRE, butterflies, being "in love" - all those sensations make me nearly crazy. I'm grateful that Cupid's venom is finally wearing off in my relationship with my OSO, because now, for the most part, I can think straight
Treasure your relationship for what it is. Your friends cannot tell you what is to be valued in it.